Offering Hope and Encouragement in the Midst of Sorrow

Sometimes without any thought of malice, words pop out of our mouths before we realize what we have said.  Widows/widowers are forgiving knowing that often people do not know what to say, but stopping a moment before speaking can prevent many uncomfortable situations. 

            What NOT to Say to a Widow/Widower

  • I'm as serious as a heart attack or I about had a stroke.
  • My husband's been gone all week on a business trip, now I know what it feels like to be a widow.
  • My brother died last year. I know just how you feel.
  • Do you miss your husband/wife?
  • Don't say anything that begins with the words "at least."  "At least he/she isn't suffering any longer."  "At least you have kids to keep you busy,"
  • You are young; you'll remarry.
  • I know someone who found a new husband through one of those online dating services; maybe you should try that.
  • I know someone who had that type of cancer but they lived!
  • Do you think your children will remember their father/mother?
  • Did you see angels in your husband's/wife's room when they were dying?
  • Your husband/wife is in a better place now!
  • Time heals all wounds.
  • God chooses special people for special tasks. He knew you could handle this.
  • It's been six months. Are you ready to move on now?
  • All things work together for good!