Offering Hope and Encouragement in the Midst of Sorrow

The information offered is in no way to be used as a substitute for seeking help from your healthcare provider. If you are having feelings of depression, anxiety or desperation please seek help from a health care provider immediately. 

 

     Factors That Can Complicate the Grieving Process

 
  • Previous life experiences: Things we experience as children or adults sometimes influence how we deal with stress at a later time in our life. Experiences can provide positive references for us to fall back on. Sometimes, however, life experiences will open old wounds that create a mixture of new and old feelings. 
  • Personal traits: Some individuals are born with survivor personalities. When life hands them bitter coffee beans, they make a latte! Some individuals who have handled other difficult circumstances may find it easier to cope with the stress associated with loss. Others see no hope of survival and become easily despondent.
  • Current circumstances: When a family is faced with circumstances surrounding the loss, it can push stress levels over the top. The widow who receives a large bill as a result of her husband’s death, or a widower who is faced with unmet mortgage payments, may experience feelings of hopelessness.
  • The death experience: Experiencing the loss of a spouse is devastating under any circumstances, but some death experiences bring with them traumatic events. Losing a spouse to murder, an accident, or a national disaster, adds emotional insult to the grieving process. Loss accompanied by abuse of power, betrayal of trust, entrapment, neglect, crime, or combat, causes added pain, confusion and frustration.

    Sudden or multiple changes: The widow or widower who experiences multiple changes due to the death of a spouse becomes more vulnerable. Moving to a new area, or having prolonged absences from their children, can create feelings of abandonment.